Thursday 13 December 2018

4th Child : Introducing our baby no 4

Salam..


SAFWA BINTI KHAIRIL ANWAR
3rd DECEMBER 2018 @ 1030am
25 Rabiulawal 1440H
3.29kg
SVD By Dr Jumeah at Avisena Specialist Hospital

Alhamdulillah.. saya selamat melahirkan anak ke 4 kami secara normal  baru2 ni..
Kali ni Anwar lagi sekali not by my side .. but Alhamdulillah everything was well.
He is currently serving in Hosp Port Dickson, hari2 ulang alik shah alam-Pd. On that day, he got 5 cases of elective OT yg die x sempat pon nak buat.

Kandungan kali ni agak mencabar sikit jika dibandingkan dgn kandungan2 sebelum ini.
Walaupun x banyak alahan tapi I got infected by Group A Streptococcus semasa usia kandungan berusia 36mggu..
Symptomnya adalah keputihan yg amat tidak selesa..
Maka, i was on oral antibiotic and my birth plan was included with antibiotics on board.
Maksudnya, kuman ni boleh mengancam atau membahayakan nyawa ibu dan anak dalam kandungan.. Jadi antibiotik kene bagi semasa dan selepas bersalin sebagai langkah pencegah komplikasi.
Jadinya, walaupon bersalin secara normal , i was admitted and need to stay in hospital untuk close observation and iv antibiotics..
Lagi mencabar for us, baby pon kene antibiotik sebab bacaan darah die menunjukkan “presumed sepsis”..😩
Lagi sedih, baby kene duduk dekat isolation room.. so me and nwar need to go down to 3rd floor to see her.  Ni kire mcm infectious control la.. Derang x bg baby room in dgn mama sbb takut nanti ada visitors or mama sendiri x sihat then jangkit kat baby..
It was a very exhausting experience for me. Physical and mental.
Thinking of my other 3 young kids at home..
My son pulak dah plan for khatan on the next day (4/12/2018) di hosp PD.. my only son, my 1st born.. 😔 .. we thought sempat laa khatankan die dulu... skali mama yg bersalin dulu.

3 days before my delivery ( Friday 30/11/2018) i had false alarm.
Perut rasa sakit since 4am sampai x boleh nak tido.. i felt like contraction pain but a bit different.
We went for check up, buat ctg - normal. VE  - os 1cm, soft ( bukaan jalan).
So selamat laa hari tu..

Bila hari Isnin - hari bersalin.
After solat subuh tu mmg ade mild abdominal discomfort.. tp ingatkan later hilang la sakit tu.
Siap bye2 nwar and ahmad kluar rumah pagi tu.
Tapi bile jam dekat pukul 8pagi, sakit agak makin intense.
I feel like sakit perut masa hari Jumaat hari tu. Like UTI pain ( kencing kotor)
I called nwar - die baru je sampai hosp pd that time. He thought i had same abd pain mcm hari tu jugak.. but offer to call his mother to bring me to hospital.
I said nevermind.. i hope this pain hilang kejap2 lg..
Tapi x hilang.. then i got nervous.
Oh, my parents and my sister were in Hatnyai that time 😂
So, i called my mother in law in usj to bring me to hospital.. lepas tu terpikir, ehh kalau jalan jem kat proton tu mcm mana ehh??
So i called fatin ( my cousin @ clinic staff) too as backup plan..
Finally by 8.40-8.45am mak mentua sampai depan rumah and terus bawak ke hospital.
Dalam kereta xde la rasa contraction mcm nak mati macam masa sofea/ sarah..
kire masih tolerable laa.. boleh tunjuk jalan kat mak. Boleh buka mata.. hehe ( i used to close my eyes kalau sakit sgt)..

9am - arrive ED. Jalan kaki masuk daftar diri sendiri and suruh mak pi parking kereta.
9.15 am - ed doctor check jalan : 5cm ! 🥳 happy sbb finally ade peluang nak epidural.
10am - arrived labour room. Dr Jumeah and pakar bius yg nak pasang epidural dah tunggu.
          - Dr Jumeah kata nak check ctg dulu and check jaln semula.
          - i was saying to her, x payah la. Pasang la epidural dulu 😂
          - mesti la x boleh kan.. haha and guess what, jalan i dah bukak penuh. 😩
          - Dr bius offer spinal - kebaskan dr pinggang ke bawah for 1 hour laa lebih kurang, aku angguk dah agree. Skali Dr Jumeah kata x payah la suria. This time baby u kecik. U can do it. We will help u.. 😭😭😭😭.

10.30 : baby’s out. Without vacuum/kiwi. Nwar baru nak gerak dr Pd ke shah alam. Hehe

12 noon : Nwar sampai kt labour room.. finally.



               

Tuesday 27 November 2018

My 1st born ; Ahmad Aidil turns 7

Alhamdulillah..
Today i’m a proud mama to a 7 year old boy.
To be honest, i never expected to conceive u that early but the news of having u was cherished by everyone in our family.
Orang melayu kata “bunting pelamin” 😊
Mama was having great time carrying u from the 1st until my 3rd trimester with total weight gain for almost 25kg!
I could eat anything at anytime.. now i am not suprise looking at your wonderful appetite.
Even though the doctor need to cut my tummy to bring u out, mama recovered very fast and u were so easy to handle during confinement period up to now..
U just had a little bit of emotional tantrums when i was carrying ur little sister -Sofea but that was acceptable.
As u were growing and our family keep on expanding, i can see how u turn into a more wonderful responsible 1st child of mine and as a big brother. I know sometimes it was hard when u need to give in with your younger sisters most of the time but u are such a strong spirit boy.
U manage to handle ur feeling quite well somehow.. even better than myself.
Now that u are turning 7 year old, u’ve been asking for a “Nerf” party  - which at first i have no idea what was it 😅. Then , i wish i could make ur wish come true but the time just not so right as i could pop out ur little no 4 sister anytime now.. i am so sorry for that.
I hope next time insyaAllah u will get a great birthday party.
My prayers however will never end for u..
I love u my darling Ahmad Aidil.. Happy birthday! 🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂
Asking for birthday present too early face 😁

Thursday 27 September 2018

PANTANG..

Salam..

** this is totally base on personal preferances and experienced. **

My pantang period is : 44 days bermula dari hari pertama bersalin.

Sepanjang 44 hari tu

  •  tak keluar rumah kecuali ade check up dgn doctor (xde issue sgt pon sbb i mmg suka dok rumah..anak2 alhamdulillah xde yg kene jaundice)
  • kene pakai kain batik and baju ala2 kurung kedah yg berbutang depan tu (baru tanya nak pakai tshirt pon dah kene jelingan ok dgn ibu..)
  • berbengkung and pakai socks hari2.. ( yg ni ikut sedap hati je.. ibu x larat nak jeling dah)
  • makan mengikut menu berpantang yg diluluskan oleh ibu.. tp menu berpantang ibu saya semua sedap2.. so i dont mind at all..


I know setiap org ada cara masing2..ada yang nak ikut adat berpantang, ada yg x ikut langsung.
Terpulang pada diri masing2..Jgn banding2kan diri kita dgn org lain.

Bile my patient ask me about this subject , from medical point of view senang je.. 😎 xde pon pantang2.. yg penting jaga kesihatan . Makan makanan yg sihat, good rest.. kalau ade penyakit2 tu, ikut la arahan2 doctor..makan ubat yg sepatutnya..monitor blood pressure ke.. monitor gula ke.

Yang jadi berbalah pendapat ni biasanya bila kita ni jadi terlalu "rigid". Keras mcm batu. Lepas tu emosi bile org x sependapat dgn kita..

So free your mind, jgn stress2..

I personally sangat2 suka tempoh berpantang. serious!😊
Maybe sbb cara berpantang yg ibu set for me sgt best sebenarnya.. walaupon mula2 dulu masa Ahmad agak terlalu strict.. biasalah, masa mula2 jd nenek kan..die yg nervous lebih. Tapi sekarang, she's more relax and sporting.

Alhamdulillah, pengalaman2 yg sebelum ni, i get byk support bukan shj dr ibu sendiri & husband tapi juga from mak mentua , mak sedara, dan lovely cousins.
Kalau ibu x sempat nak masak, my aunty slalunya prepare it for me.. pastu ade la sesiapa tolong bring the foods to me..
Syukur juga sepanjang 3 kali berpantang sebelum ni, i got pembantu rumah yg reliable and helpful with house work especially bab preparing baju2 kerja husband/skolah anak semua..I memang x suruh my maid masak..
So, if u see me still x susut2 berat badan lepas pantang.. ni lah sebabnya.

So let me share a bit la HOW TO HAVE LESS HEADACHE during PANTANG :

1) Support

  • 1st skali dr suami. Cuti lama sket if possible tolong handle baby tu.. moral support to wife. Tolong settle kerja2 rumah mana yg patut.. masak kalau pandai.. Ketua keluarga kan. Be strong and just do it! 💪
  • 2nd , ahli keluarga.. parents/ adik beradik/ sedara mara.. ni kire mcm standby kalau mmg tahu husband sendiri mcm x berapa nak boleh harap (hehe maaf la ye..mmg wujud suami begini) or long distance relationship ke.. tuntutan kerja yg x dpt nak dikorbankan..
  • 3rd Maid. Mostly husband x dpt nak cuti lama2.. so usaha la sket cr pembantu rumah.. terutamanya bile xde ahli keluarga yg boleh bantu.. mak dah uzur ke.. Kalau anak baru sorang gigih la lagi xde maid. Tapi if u have a toddler at least, cukup penat dah..nak handle baby baru lahir lagi.. Mana la x murung ..
  • 4th Confinement Lady : skarang ni ada yg stay in dgn kita sekali ada, yg duduk dgn kite sampai ptg pon ada.. mcm2 pilihan. Tapi yg ni x lah wajib. Bergantung pd bajet & keperluan masing2.. 


2) Makanan - sebelum ni i got it prepared by ibu or by mak jenon (my aunty)
                      - ni no 4 ni rasanya nak try juga a few food delivery kalau ibu x sihat ke, busy ke.
                        Kesian nak harap sepenuhnya pd ibu sebenarnya..
                      - antara yg i dah survey sket2 & nampak mcm sedap  :
My issue bab makanan ni slalunya jenis ikan je. Ibu x pernah masak ikan sungai or ikan bilis sepanjang tempoh pantang. Reason? die kata die pon x tahu. hahaha die cakap dulu2 arwah atok n nenek pon x bagi die makan ikan2 tu. So die follow je. Makanya, i pon follow je laa.. (i told u, im a very good daughter 😁)

My common foods during pantang usually : 
Ikan : Kurau, senangin, jenahak, merah, bawal putih.. baru2 ni die bagi makan salmon.
Ayam/ Daging : 2nd week ibu bagi makan. Selalunya ayam kampung.
Udang/ Sotong : masa pantang no3 die bagi makan masa dah hujung mggu ke 2. Alhamdulillah ok je.
Sayur - Ulam2 (x sure nama), sawi, carrot, kailan, brocoli.. byk je pilihan. Hari2 mesti ada.
Fruits - selalunya orange & apple..skali sekali durian pon dapat. hehe Tp i mmg x berani makan 
             betik sbb masa Ahmad dulu makan betik terus demam. serik.
Drinks - Milo, Horlicks, Black Coffee, Susu anlene, Air longan self rebus with kurma merah.
              Xde water restriction. Air masak minum banyak2..
Others - Roti, Biscuit Jacob, kadang2 dapat je makan fruit-cheese tart .. choc cake. ✌
Jenis masakan : Goreng/Asam/Kicap/Kari xde santan/Pindang/Steam/Bakar


3) Confinement Lady
Ni memang my favourite ..sebab kene urut and tungku sgt laa relaxing..
Pastu mandi guna daun2 apa ntah..tp wangi. Mandi bunga.. Ada ke org yg x suka? 
My no 4 i plan to get 14 days confinement package.. Biasanya they will come selang2 hari..
I cant cope yg datang hari2 sampai 44 hari tu coz sometimes i just need my me-time and rest je.
I also cannot cope yg stay in sbb rasa my house penuh dah org.. maid pon ade tolong settle kerja rumah and jagakan Sarah (no 3). My 1st & 2nd child pulak sekolah sampai petang..
So i prefer yg datang berulang untuk 2-3 jam pon dah cukup..
Kalau area lembah klang ni, mmg byk yg offer servis ni.. google je la or cari je kt ig. berderet2 keluar.
Here are some yg i sempat survey :


AGENSI
PRICE
BABY/ OTHERS
1



-          3HARI
-          5 HARI
-          10 HARI
-          14 HARI
RM 830
RM 1145
RM 2055
RM 2715
BABY ADD ON RM40/SESSION

14 DAYS INCLUDE :
·         DAILY URUT & TUNKU
·         SCRUB X2
·         HERBAL STEAM BATHX1




2
SENTUHAN BIDAN AZNIZA



PAKEJ ROSE (2.5JAM)


-          7 HARI
-          14 HARI



RM 1300
RM 2600
BABY INCLUDED
DAILY URUT/TUNKU/MANDI HERBA
-          2XSCRUB,2X SAUNA
-          3XSCRUB,3X SAUNA




3



-          14 DAYS - 2 HOURS ( 9AM-11AM)
-          21 DAYS – 2 HOURS
-          14 DAYS – 4 HOURS (9AM-1PM)

*DAILY URUT & TUNKU
*DAILY HERBAL BATH
*INFRARED THERAPY X7
* SCRUB X 1/WEEK
RM 1950
RM 2850
RM 3300
-          √ BABY  , X MASAK
-          √ BABY  , X MASAK
-          √ BABY  , √ MASAK

-          TRANSPORT CHARGE RM36/DAY :
14d + RM504
        21d + RM756




4
DR BIDAN



BASIC PAKEJ (8am-1.30pm)
-          14 DAYS

TRANSPORT RM20/DAY


RM 2130
URUTx4, TANGASx2, SAUNAx5, SCRUBx1, TUNGKUx7,MANDI HERBAx7
√ BABY
√ MASAK

FULL PAKEJ (8am-4pm)
-          14 DAYS

TRANSPORT RM20/DAY


RM 2750
URUTx7, TANGASx4, SAUNAx7, SCRUBx2, TUNGKUx7, MANDI HERBAx7
√ BABY
√ MASAK




5
BUNDA HOME MASSAGE



RAWATAN 4  (14 DAYS) 2-3 JAM
RM 2100
-          DAILY URUT, TUNGKU, MANDI HERBA,
-          SAUNA X5
-          BABY INCLUDED




6
URUT KAK NORON



-          14 HARI

RM 1499

-          BABY INCLUDED DAIL
-          URUT X 7
-          DAILY TUNKU/ MANDI HERBA
-          TRANSPORT NEED ADD ON




7
PANTANGPLUS




-          PAKEJ1 BASIC (14 DAYS)

RM 3440
-          MOM ONLY 2.5 JAM
-          BABY NOT INCLUDED
-          DAILY URUT/ TUNGKU/ TANGAS/SCRUB/HERBAL BATH

-          PAKEJ2 STANDARD COMBO A         (14 DAYS)
RM 3720
MOM & BABY 4 JAM
X MASAK

-          PAKEJ4  FULL DAY (14 DAYS)
RM 3920
MOM + BABY + FOOD
8 JAM




8
FAZRINA POSTNATAL CARE




PAKEJ B HALF DAY (3.5JAM) 14 DAYS

RM 2600

PAKEJ B : INCLUDE BABY, MASAK , CUCI BAJU BABY
-          DAILY URUT / TUNGKU
-          TANGAS X3/WEEK
-          SCRUB X2/WEEK

PAKEJ B FULL DAY (9AM-430PM) 14 DAYS
RM 3000





9
UMMI CONFINEMENT CARE



14 HARI
-          DAILY TUNGKU/SAUNA/MANDI HERBA
-          4X  URUT/WEEK
-          1X LULUR/WEEK
-          2X TANGAS/WEEK
RM 2350 (H)
RM 2550 (F)
ALL INCLUDE BABY & MASAK

HALF DAY : 9AM-12.30PM
                     1PM - 4.30PM

FULL DAY : 9AM -4.30PM




10



14 HARI
-          DAILY URUT/TUNGKU/ MANDI HERBA
-          TANGAS BASAH X7 / KERING X1
-          SCRUB X1
-          MANDI BUNGA X1
RM 2919
BABY NOT INCLUDED
-          RM 50/DAY




11
SENTUHAN BONDA



14 DAYS
-          URUT X11 , URUT SUSU X5
-          DAILY TUNGKU/MANDI HERBA
-          TANGAS X6 , LULUR X3
RM 2500

BABY INCLUDED




12
NATALIS MOTHERCARE (STAY IN)



-          7 HARI
-          10 HARI
-          14 HARI
RM 1899
RM 2399
RM 3299
ALL INCLUDE BABY & MASAK
*PAKEJ EXCLUSIVE MOSTLY 2X DAILY MANDI/SAUNA/TUNGKU

BASIC PAKEJ (PAKEJ B)
-          7 HARI
-          14 HARI
-          21 DAYS

RM 1850
RM 2850
RM 3850

*BASIC : 1X DAILY

Mostly yg xde link tu ade kt Ig/Fb.. Boleh whatsapp sendiri mengikut pakej yg u all suka.

Anak no 1 dulu pakai bidan dr Klang.. x ingat dah nama.. Tapi tungku/bengkung hari2 my mak long from Penang yg buatkan. She stayed with me sampai Ahmad umur 1 tahun..💖

Anak No 2, bidan area rumah ibu juga..sbb still berpantang kt sana. Tungku and bengkung maid ibu from Indon hari2 buatkan.

Anak no 3 , pantang kat rumah sendiri.. ibu datang daily or stay over. Pakai Sentuhan Bonda (CL Fizah) sbb recommended by my cousin. Urut mmg superb.. speciality die bab urut susu or bengkak susu..

Anak no 4 : masih survey2..dan belum finalised lg.. mcm nak cuba yg lain pulak. we'll see..

Ok la, panjang sangat2 dah ni..
Doakan yg baik2 buat saya utk kandungan kali ni ye.. Semoga Allah permudahkan urusan kita semua.. amin.

me at 26w with Ahmad & Sofea yellow belt taekwondo grading 

baby girl Sarah finally ade gigi at 7months+ 😊


Till then, xoxo 😗