PANTANG..

Salam..

** this is totally base on personal preferances and experienced. **

My pantang period is : 44 days bermula dari hari pertama bersalin.

Sepanjang 44 hari tu

•  tak keluar rumah kecuali ade check up dgn doctor (xde issue sgt pon sbb i mmg suka dok rumah..anak2 alhamdulillah xde yg kene jaundice)
• kene pakai kain batik and baju ala2 kurung kedah yg berbutang depan tu (baru tanya nak pakai tshirt pon dah kene jelingan ok dgn ibu..)
• berbengkung and pakai socks hari2.. ( yg ni ikut sedap hati je.. ibu x larat nak jeling dah)
• makan mengikut menu berpantang yg diluluskan oleh ibu.. tp menu berpantang ibu saya semua sedap2.. so i dont mind at all..

I know setiap org ada cara masing2..ada yang nak ikut adat berpantang, ada yg x ikut langsung.
Terpulang pada diri masing2..Jgn banding2kan diri kita dgn org lain.

Bile my patient ask me about this subject , from medical point of view senang je.. 😎 xde pon pantang2.. yg penting jaga kesihatan . Makan makanan yg sihat, good rest.. kalau ade penyakit2 tu, ikut la arahan2 doctor..makan ubat yg sepatutnya..monitor blood pressure ke.. monitor gula ke.

Yang jadi berbalah pendapat ni biasanya bila kita ni jadi terlalu "rigid". Keras mcm batu. Lepas tu emosi bile org x sependapat dgn kita..

So free your mind, jgn stress2..

I personally sangat2 suka tempoh berpantang. serious!😊
Maybe sbb cara berpantang yg ibu set for me sgt best sebenarnya.. walaupon mula2 dulu masa Ahmad agak terlalu strict.. biasalah, masa mula2 jd nenek kan..die yg nervous lebih. Tapi sekarang, she's more relax and sporting.

Alhamdulillah, pengalaman2 yg sebelum ni, i get byk support bukan shj dr ibu sendiri & husband tapi juga from mak mentua , mak sedara, dan lovely cousins.
Kalau ibu x sempat nak masak, my aunty slalunya prepare it for me.. pastu ade la sesiapa tolong bring the foods to me..
Syukur juga sepanjang 3 kali berpantang sebelum ni, i got pembantu rumah yg reliable and helpful with house work especially bab preparing baju2 kerja husband/skolah anak semua..I memang x suruh my maid masak..
So, if u see me still x susut2 berat badan lepas pantang.. ni lah sebabnya.

So let me share a bit la HOW TO HAVE LESS HEADACHE during PANTANG :

1) Support

• 1st skali dr suami. Cuti lama sket if possible tolong handle baby tu.. moral support to wife. Tolong settle kerja2 rumah mana yg patut.. masak kalau pandai.. Ketua keluarga kan. Be strong and just do it! 💪
• 2nd , ahli keluarga.. parents/ adik beradik/ sedara mara.. ni kire mcm standby kalau mmg tahu husband sendiri mcm x berapa nak boleh harap (hehe maaf la ye..mmg wujud suami begini) or long distance relationship ke.. tuntutan kerja yg x dpt nak dikorbankan..
• 3rd Maid. Mostly husband x dpt nak cuti lama2.. so usaha la sket cr pembantu rumah.. terutamanya bile xde ahli keluarga yg boleh bantu.. mak dah uzur ke.. Kalau anak baru sorang gigih la lagi xde maid. Tapi if u have a toddler at least, cukup penat dah..nak handle baby baru lahir lagi.. Mana la x murung ..
• 4th Confinement Lady : skarang ni ada yg stay in dgn kita sekali ada, yg duduk dgn kite sampai ptg pon ada.. mcm2 pilihan. Tapi yg ni x lah wajib. Bergantung pd bajet & keperluan masing2.. 

2) Makanan - sebelum ni i got it prepared by ibu or by mak jenon (my aunty)
                      - ni no 4 ni rasanya nak try juga a few food delivery kalau ibu x sihat ke, busy ke.
                        Kesian nak harap sepenuhnya pd ibu sebenarnya..
                      - antara yg i dah survey sket2 & nampak mcm sedap  :

• PantangFood - ig : pantangfoodofficial . Harga from rm60/day. Ada mcm2 pakej.
• PantangFoodFrozen . Harga from Rm40/day (minimum 3 hari) + RM20 transport charge)
• Dahmakan
• CikTa's Kitchen - ni org alam impian je. Boleh order sehari sebelum. 

My issue bab makanan ni slalunya jenis ikan je. Ibu x pernah masak ikan sungai or ikan bilis sepanjang tempoh pantang. Reason? die kata die pon x tahu. hahaha die cakap dulu2 arwah atok n nenek pon x bagi die makan ikan2 tu. So die follow je. Makanya, i pon follow je laa.. (i told u, im a very good daughter 😁)

My common foods during pantang usually : 

Ikan : Kurau, senangin, jenahak, merah, bawal putih.. baru2 ni die bagi makan salmon.

Ayam/ Daging : 2nd week ibu bagi makan. Selalunya ayam kampung.

Udang/ Sotong : masa pantang no3 die bagi makan masa dah hujung mggu ke 2. Alhamdulillah ok je.

Sayur - Ulam2 (x sure nama), sawi, carrot, kailan, brocoli.. byk je pilihan. Hari2 mesti ada.

Fruits - selalunya orange & apple..skali sekali durian pon dapat. hehe Tp i mmg x berani makan 

             betik sbb masa Ahmad dulu makan betik terus demam. serik.

Drinks - Milo, Horlicks, Black Coffee, Susu anlene, Air longan self rebus with kurma merah.
              Xde water restriction. Air masak minum banyak2..
Others - Roti, Biscuit Jacob, kadang2 dapat je makan fruit-cheese tart .. choc cake. ✌
Jenis masakan : Goreng/Asam/Kicap/Kari xde santan/Pindang/Steam/Bakar

3) Confinement Lady
Ni memang my favourite ..sebab kene urut and tungku sgt laa relaxing..

Pastu mandi guna daun2 apa ntah..tp wangi. Mandi bunga.. Ada ke org yg x suka? 

My no 4 i plan to get 14 days confinement package.. Biasanya they will come selang2 hari..
I cant cope yg datang hari2 sampai 44 hari tu coz sometimes i just need my me-time and rest je.

I also cannot cope yg stay in sbb rasa my house penuh dah org.. maid pon ade tolong settle kerja rumah and jagakan Sarah (no 3). My 1st & 2nd child pulak sekolah sampai petang..
So i prefer yg datang berulang untuk 2-3 jam pon dah cukup..
Kalau area lembah klang ni, mmg byk yg offer servis ni.. google je la or cari je kt ig. berderet2 keluar.
Here are some yg i sempat survey :

	AGENSI	PRICE	BABY/ OTHERS
1	TANAMERA POSTNATAL
	-          3HARI -          5 HARI -          10 HARI -          14 HARI	RM 830 RM 1145 RM 2055 RM 2715	BABY ADD ON RM40/SESSION 14 DAYS INCLUDE : ·         DAILY URUT & TUNKU ·         SCRUB X2 ·         HERBAL STEAM BATHX1
2	SENTUHAN BIDAN AZNIZA
	PAKEJ ROSE (2.5JAM) -          7 HARI -          14 HARI	RM 1300 RM 2600	BABY INCLUDED DAILY URUT/TUNKU/MANDI HERBA -          2XSCRUB,2X SAUNA -          3XSCRUB,3X SAUNA
3	MOM RETREAT
	-          14 DAYS - 2 HOURS ( 9AM-11AM) -          21 DAYS – 2 HOURS -          14 DAYS – 4 HOURS (9AM-1PM) *DAILY URUT & TUNKU *DAILY HERBAL BATH *INFRARED THERAPY X7 * SCRUB X 1/WEEK	RM 1950 RM 2850 RM 3300	-          √ BABY  , X MASAK -          √ BABY  , X MASAK -          √ BABY  , √ MASAK -          TRANSPORT CHARGE RM36/DAY : 14d + RM504         21d + RM756
4	DR BIDAN
	BASIC PAKEJ (8am-1.30pm) -          14 DAYS TRANSPORT RM20/DAY	RM 2130	URUTx4, TANGASx2, SAUNAx5, SCRUBx1, TUNGKUx7,MANDI HERBAx7 √ BABY √ MASAK
	FULL PAKEJ (8am-4pm) -          14 DAYS TRANSPORT RM20/DAY	RM 2750	URUTx7, TANGASx4, SAUNAx7, SCRUBx2, TUNGKUx7, MANDI HERBAx7 √ BABY √ MASAK
5	BUNDA HOME MASSAGE
	RAWATAN 4  (14 DAYS) 2-3 JAM	RM 2100	-          DAILY URUT, TUNGKU, MANDI HERBA, -          SAUNA X5 -          BABY INCLUDED
6	URUT KAK NORON
	-          14 HARI	RM 1499	-          BABY INCLUDED DAIL -          URUT X 7 -          DAILY TUNKU/ MANDI HERBA -          TRANSPORT NEED ADD ON
7	PANTANGPLUS
	-          PAKEJ1 BASIC (14 DAYS)	RM 3440	-          MOM ONLY 2.5 JAM -          BABY NOT INCLUDED -          DAILY URUT/ TUNGKU/ TANGAS/SCRUB/HERBAL BATH
	-          PAKEJ2 STANDARD COMBO A         (14 DAYS)	RM 3720	MOM & BABY 4 JAM X MASAK
	-          PAKEJ4  FULL DAY (14 DAYS)	RM 3920	MOM + BABY + FOOD 8 JAM
8	FAZRINA POSTNATAL CARE
	PAKEJ B HALF DAY (3.5JAM) 14 DAYS	RM 2600	PAKEJ B : INCLUDE BABY, MASAK , CUCI BAJU BABY -          DAILY URUT / TUNGKU -          TANGAS X3/WEEK -          SCRUB X2/WEEK
	PAKEJ B FULL DAY (9AM-430PM) 14 DAYS	RM 3000
9	UMMI CONFINEMENT CARE
	14 HARI -          DAILY TUNGKU/SAUNA/MANDI HERBA -          4X  URUT/WEEK -          1X LULUR/WEEK -          2X TANGAS/WEEK	RM 2350 (H) RM 2550 (F)	ALL INCLUDE BABY & MASAK HALF DAY : 9AM-12.30PM                      1PM - 4.30PM FULL DAY : 9AM -4.30PM
10	KAKAKADEK CONFINEMENT
	14 HARI -          DAILY URUT/TUNGKU/ MANDI HERBA -          TANGAS BASAH X7 / KERING X1 -          SCRUB X1 -          MANDI BUNGA X1	RM 2919	BABY NOT INCLUDED -          RM 50/DAY
11	SENTUHAN BONDA
	14 DAYS -          URUT X11 , URUT SUSU X5 -          DAILY TUNGKU/MANDI HERBA -          TANGAS X6 , LULUR X3	RM 2500	BABY INCLUDED
12	NATALIS MOTHERCARE (STAY IN)
	-          7 HARI -          10 HARI -          14 HARI	RM 1899 RM 2399 RM 3299	ALL INCLUDE BABY & MASAK *PAKEJ EXCLUSIVE MOSTLY 2X DAILY MANDI/SAUNA/TUNGKU
	BASIC PAKEJ (PAKEJ B) -          7 HARI -          14 HARI -          21 DAYS	RM 1850 RM 2850 RM 3850	*BASIC : 1X DAILY

Mostly yg xde link tu ade kt Ig/Fb.. Boleh whatsapp sendiri mengikut pakej yg u all suka.

Anak no 1 dulu pakai bidan dr Klang.. x ingat dah nama.. Tapi tungku/bengkung hari2 my mak long from Penang yg buatkan. She stayed with me sampai Ahmad umur 1 tahun..💖

Anak No 2, bidan area rumah ibu juga..sbb still berpantang kt sana. Tungku and bengkung maid ibu from Indon hari2 buatkan.

Anak no 3 , pantang kat rumah sendiri.. ibu datang daily or stay over. Pakai Sentuhan Bonda (CL Fizah) sbb recommended by my cousin. Urut mmg superb.. speciality die bab urut susu or bengkak susu..

Anak no 4 : masih survey2..dan belum finalised lg.. mcm nak cuba yg lain pulak. we'll see..

Ok la, panjang sangat2 dah ni..
Doakan yg baik2 buat saya utk kandungan kali ni ye.. Semoga Allah permudahkan urusan kita semua.. amin.

me at 26w with Ahmad & Sofea yellow belt taekwondo grading 

baby girl Sarah finally ade gigi at 7months+ 😊

Till then, xoxo 😗

Yes, i am pregnant. Again.. its no 4

Salam..
Alhamdulillah.. many of you already knew regarding this news.
I officially spread this unexpected news during raya time last month.
Reaction? hahaha mostly terkejut la..
Me & Anwar pon terkejut ourselves.. This is my very first "unexpected pregnancy".
Macam2 perasaan ada..
Terkejut .. x percaya.. malu & mcm mana nak hadap orang sekeliling.. and most importantly, how am i going to cope with my preggy-self with another 2 toddlers and an infant and my business!
Lg best, i just enrolled myself to Celebrity Fitness in less than a month and i cant cancel it coz there will be penalty what so ever if i do it.
So bye2 CF.. see u next year maybe... 😭

So how do we handle it?
To be honest, for a hormonal-swing woman , it is very hard to keep all the emotional roller coaster feeling alone. Thank god, i have a less emotional husband who tried his best level of kesabaran to keep up with me.. sampai the last resort is
" ok la sayang, up to u.. if u want to keep it, we will keep the baby..insyaAllah no problem with that.. but if u really think u cant take it, cant handle it physically and emotionally, i am with you too.. u choose which hospital and which doctor you want to see and we terminate it. Let me know when and where"

Yes.. sampai mcm tu dah.. dont judge me.
So, i keep myself to the "undecided state" for a while.. play with the time..
Then i teringat pulak ayat ni.. "Allah hanya menguji hambanNya yang mampu.."
Maka , insaf & sentap pd diri sendiri.

I start to look around my friends/ family yang ada anak kembar.. x mati pon derang kan. hahaha
So ok la.. let it be. Bring it on kids!
Stop thinking too much and lets start doa banyak2 beranak kali ni x sakit & cepat & kalau nak sakit pon harap2 sempat la nak put in epidural ke.. sign consent letter suruh operate ke.
Hahahaha... Please pray for me.

I settle myself first.. mentally. Physically mmg la x dpt nak tolong sgt kan.. mmg penat.

So bile dah ready, me & nwar informed my ibu 1st.
Bab nak inform org ni agak seronok and kelakar sebenarnya.. Reaksi derang mmg patut di amik gamba jdkn kenangan. hehehe
Tapi my ibu ok je.. bersyukur laa dengan "kesuburan" anak die ni..

Then, news spread to anwar's family side.
Belah sini best.. sbb semua pon mcm haaa alhamdulillah... bagus laa awak beranak ramai2 time mude2 ni ( ok i still mude ok..happy dah)
Makcik dulu pon tiap2 tahun ada anak kecik.. InsyaAllah ok..
Very encouraging! i like it.. it makes me relax a bit.

Bile balik Shah Alam.. here we go to my own beautiful family side..
Semua was like 😲😲😲 .. ade yg x percaya.. ade yg ko pantang tak ni?
hahaha.. mula2 je la.. lepas tu.. bile hilang terkejut derang tu.. derang treats me as "mak buyong queen" again.. hahaha padan muke.
They have this " guilty allergy' to any mak buyomg request.. so sebut je la nak ape.. they'll get it for me. 💜

My current pregnancy is indeed a poor spacing pregnancy.
Mengandung cara ni bukan lah perkara yang harus dibanggakan.. instead harus dipandang serious.
In case any of you having the same issue like mine, pergi buat check up dengan doctor cepat-cepat.
Banyak risiko-risiko bahaya mengandung boleh datang dari kandungan ni " high risk pregnancy".
antaranya, risiko kelahiran pra matang.. pregnancy-induced hypertension.. and banyak lagi.

Bab emosi, jangan pandang ringan ye.
1st sekali mesti utamakan diri sendiri.. kemudian get support dr suami, parents, adik beradik, sepupu sepapat, kawan2..
Kalau x boleh juga, get professional help.
Jangan bandingan keadaan kandungan setiap individu yg berbeza sbb u never know setiap org punye tahap kesihatan mcm mana.

As for me, I belum buat decision yet nak jumpa pakar bersalin mana for this one.
Rasanya still will go to DEMC .. eh nama baru dh jd Avisenna Hospital for logistic reason.
Kecuali laa tibe2 jalan kt pavillion pastu nak terberanak.. i'll go to Prince Court .
Sarah was with Dr Jumeah in DEMC.. She was great.
Nwar kata, tukar2 la doctor.. so setiap anak doctor lain2.. hmm suke2 hati die je laa..
Malas nak fikir banyak sebenarnye sebab nanti takut..
Lagi syok survey2 pakej pantang

Ok la till my next blog, nanti i share pakej pantang yg i survey.

the very 1st scan of our no4.. mesin pon x leh nak detect berapa minggu masa ni.

ok yg ni dah besar sket after few days..